Susan Patton, better known as the Princeton Mom, complained to CNN’s Carol Costello this morning that the concept of rape has been watered down on college campuses.
Patton said rape should not be difficult for victims to talk about and she bemoaned the fact that rape has been the main topic of discussion for the last several weeks on many campuses.
“What makes this conversation so prickly is the definition of rape. It no longer is when a woman is violated at the point of a gun or knife,” Patton said. “We’re now identifying as rape what really is a clumsy hookup melodrama or a fumbled attempt at a kiss or caress. In many cases that is what this is…This is with a friend or in your own a home.”
Patton questioned why women don’t just get up and leave or tell a man to stop making advances.
“There’s rape and then there’s rape,” Patton said, adding that she thinks in some cases women simply experience something they later regret, often after having too much to drink.
“To me that’s not a crime. That’s not rape. That’s a learning experience,” she said. “It has to do with making choices and taking responsibility for the choices you make.”
Costello asked if Patton had ever met a rape victim. Costello also added that she has interviewed many rape victims, and many women find it difficult to talk about. She challenged Patton and questioned whether she was blaming victims.
“I’m not talking about a woman who’s blacked-out drunk,” Patton said. “I’m suggesting that women be smart for themselves, remain sober enough to extricate themselves from a situation that’s headed in a direction they’re not comfortable with.”
Patton contended that because of feminists, men are now labeled as rapists when they are accused, and men are now presumed guilty.
On Valentine’s Day, Patton set off a firestorm in an opinion piece in The Wall Street Journal where she wrote that smart girls should find husbands in college. It was a preview of her book, Marry Smart: Advice for Finding THE ONE.
The CNN segment today: